Why do we keep having the same arguments?
My approach to couples therapy is called EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy). Operating from an attachment lens, EFT acknowledges that we were created for connection. In relationships, partners help us navigate life and enrich our experiences. When we cannot connect with them, we may feel isolated, angry and alone. Often it is our communication, or inability to communicate on important issues, that causes us to become frustrated, to disagree, and become defensive. Couples therapy can help. With the support of a therapist, couples can improve communication, deepen connections, develop mutual understanding to better meet each other's needs.
I recommend meeting for 90 minutes for the first appointment then meeting every other week for the first 2-3 months and tapering off appointments for the next 3 months. It takes time and being intentional to improve and grow in your relationship.
I see couples in-person or virtually for 60 minute sessions ($200) or 90 minute sessions ($250) depending on needs and scheduling.
Topics addressed in couples counseling may include the following:
• Managing conflict/ circular arguments/ defensiveness
• Improving communication
• Rebuilding trust
• Enhancing Intimacy
If you are in a relationship with signs of addiction, emotional abuse, sexual abuse, and/or severe depression, seek guidance from a counselor immediately, for your safety and your partner's.